My Husband Does Not Complete Me
Every girl dreams about her wedding day. From the decorations to the bridesmaid dresses, we have everything picked out, sometimes even before we have the man. ;)
We have movies, magazines and Pinterest to thank for all of the lavish details most of us can’t really afford. We spend so much time thinking and planning for our wedding day, we neglect planning for our marriage.
We spend months (or if you’re like me, years! Lol) planning ONE DAY.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. I prepared my heart for this one day of celebration more than I did for a lifetime of marriage. Of course, I was really excited to spend forever with my man! But I was way too focused on just one day. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be excited. Getting married is BIG deal. Be excited for forever with your best friend, but understand that marriage is more than just a fairytale wedding.
You’re wedding day will be perfect. You will have all sorts of butterflies and be overjoyed with all the emotions you feel.
Be careful about keeping your husband on a pedestal. I know, it’s really hard because he made you the happiest girl in the world on your wedding day.
I thought that the moment I said “I do”, this man would complete me and I would be the perfect wife. Every day after that moment would be happily ever after.
But that man, my husband, he’s still a sinner. Me, the "PERFECT wife"…still waiting on that to happen. ;) (just kidding, I’m a HUGE sinner.)
We live in an imperfect world. I burn dinners, I break my glass cups, there are unplanned bills to pay usually because of me, dishes sometimes sit in my sink for a couple days, and I run the dryer twice so I don’t have to fold clothes.
I thought I wouldn’t struggle with image or insecurities as much once I was married but I was wrong.
It doesn’t matter how many times my husband tells me I’m beautiful.
He doesn’t complete me. It doesn’t even matter that he makes me feel loved because he still doesn’t complete me. I love my husband, but he isn’t where I find my worth.
His words of affirmation make me feel special, but they don’t satisfy the longing in my heart to feel COMPLETE.
The truth is nothing really changed the moment I said “I do” except that I gained a husband, and I absolutely love him!
The deepest feelings in my heart where I crave to be loved cannot be filled by my man.
The part of you that desperately desires to be loved, fulfilled and cherished cannot be found in a man.
Perfect love is found in Jesus Christ.
1 John 3:16 “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us.”
The truth is, your husband will let you down just like you will disappoint him.
Put your trust in a Man who laid down His life for you. He will never fall off of the pedestal or disappoint you. You can find worth and freedom when you lay down your burdens. Don’t put the pressure on any man to satisfy your heart. Love him and expect him to do the same, but that’s it. It is not his job to make you feel worthy.
Find satisfaction in the Lord Jesus Christ and you will know your worth.
Don’t discredit the Lord by assigning to a sinful human what only HE can do.
Love your husband, but don’t search for worth in Him. Look to Jesus.
